Startup Fear: It’s not about you!

Rick is a new member of my team.  Rick, thanks for sharing these great thoughts! –

Sitting at the closing table of my first rehab project, my thought was: “…and here are the keys to your new home. I hope you have as much enjoyment living in your new home as I had bringing it to market.” Getting to that point was the fun part actually, the hardest part was trusting whether I had completed a thorough due diligence process prior to committing to buying this old house.

The porch had the most eclectic combination of trash I had ever seen that wasn’t in a landfill. The kitchen ceiling was mostly torn down from where the police had stormed the house in a drug raid of the previous owner, exposing the old lathe and horse hair plaster (did I mention that this was an old house) and there was about 3,000 lbs. of old chimney resting precariously on two 2”x 6” boards who’s ends spread from the massive weight like a chair’s legs that an elephant had sat in and crushed. The drain stack had a bucket to catch the leak at the elbow. As I stood in my new purchase and took inventory of all of the repairs, my eyes and mind began to cloud over with “What did you do?”

Needless to say, I developed a distinct appreciation of team building in the following days. I did what I could confidently tackle such as chipping and carrying away the 3,000 lbs. of Team_workold chimney ‘they’ had cut just below the roofline before any contractors could enter safely. Mule work I could do, but properly remedying old knob and tube to code was way beyond me and what I was legally qualified to do along with plumbing, skim coating, dry walling, etc. The point is, when you make the leap and jump in, you will be amazed at what you can do. The talents that the normal grind of our 9-5 J.O.B. life suppresses begin to emerge in this most wonderfully exceptional way.

The following are very helpful as you move forward:

Note: I use the term ‘agreement’ as beliefs we all have as individuals that are like the programming commands of a computer program.

  • Recognize that whenever you have fear, that means you’re growing and if you’re not growing, you’re in atrophy like a withering plant. Compartmentalize what the fear is: Looking bad, falling short of our own agreements we have held about ourselves, etc. Honestly, when you develop the ability to figure out what people need, and it falls into what you have the natural talent to develop better than anyone else, your agreements will evolve about yourself and those pesky one’s that have held you back fade into the mists of time.

  • Success lies outside of your comfort zone. We’ve all heard this at least once and here it is again. The definition of insanity? “Insanity is doing the same thing day after day wondering why nothing ever changes.” Now, before betting the farm, you have to clearly understand your tolerance for risk. Often, not always, it’s a matter of time management. Everyone has their own story, but within the time between bed and sleep that night, a moment spent reorganizing and reprioritizing tasks for the next day or week can reveal those few moments that you can begin chipping away at your dream for freedom and regaining back your time.

  • Understand your biggest breakthroughs most likely follow your biggest break down: your tipping point. In these times we often fall victim to the over-powering agreement in our thoughts screaming “I TOLD YOU SO!!” This couldn’t be further from the truth. Pesky agreements again. We may just need to come up with new ones, a new set of commands for our computer minds. Eventually, once you do, at that moment you will have developed the ability to identify the mental triggers that spark these feelings of confirming false agreements caused by years of bad programming.

  • Understand clearly that the power to do whatever it takes is within you to complete the task, to “pull the trigger” as they say.

  • Living in a capitalistic society we will be in competition with others doing the same thing, no worries. You’re unique so don’t dwell on competition. We all offer something unique.

  • Nay sayers… There is nothing that you will do that will not draw the criticism of someone, somewhere. One fact is true and that is, it’s easy to believe you’re not good enough if you listen to everybody else..

To summarize:

Ultimately, find a mentor, educate yourself and take action. Attend or join your local networking group of like-minded individuals, attend a few seminars, but know that it often unnecessary to spend thousands on material to get you to your goal. As it turns out, professionally, we are the sum of the 5 people we are around the most. It’s about personal survival and fulfilling our dreams of being the best version of ourselves possible, but also what you have to offer to help people with what is unique about you. When you go about the business of filling the needs of others to the best of your ability, the fears and hesitation of where to start seem to simply disappear magically.

Get in Motion!!

–Rick Corbin


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